Is it time to welcome the new post-kids you and recognize that the pre-kids you is a memory.
What is this process exactly? We all go through it, but nobody ever talks about it. The old me used to be able to give 110% at work, 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. Now that I have my kids and I am back at work I should still be able to do that…….right!!?
The new me has different priorities, but I can still be everything I was before, just with kids, right?
They say child number 1 changes your life, but nobody prepared me for child number 2. I’m struggling with my identity, I’m not sure of my career direction, I feel like a fraud, my confidence has taken a dive and the happiness and contentment I should be feeling, now that I have everything I want, is not materializing.
If you are dealing with any of the above, consider the following questions
- Are you being realistic
a. Write down everything that you want to get done in a day, do this for a week and see how realistic your aspirations are
- Are you taking the time to be grateful for what you have
a. Use your journal to practice gratitude every night before bed. Write down 3 things you are grateful for during your day, reread it in the morning as a start to your day
- Review both exercises at the end of the week, share your findings with your partner/friend/mum/ significant person in your life and discuss.
You will be amazed at what you find.!
Good Luck, you are doing much better than you think.