It’s a time to be thankful and reflect on all the great things that happened in 2019. I am privileged to have been part of so many people’s journeys in the past year. Clients who have rejoined the workforce after so many years of believing it was not possible. People who have make the change from one career to another and people who have found out what life can be like with a little self belief and confidence.
To all of my clients past, present and future. I wish you a Very Merry Christmas and a Happy and Prosperous New Year.
So what do we do? for those of us in the workplace dealing with a toxic work environment where we may be feeling undervalued, bullied, mistreated, disillusioned and in pain, we have a knee-jerk reaction to run as far away as possible from our current working norm. We want to change career, change industry, and change everything.
For mum getting back to the workplace it is a similar story, we are in pain, we feel undervalued, we don’t believe our skill set is still relevant, we are unhappy with the fact that we have somehow lost the person we were (pre-children) and wonder how to discover who we have become.
What I have discovered during my experience, as a coach is that the first thing to be addressed is how we interact with the world.
As mum leaving the home we often forget to focus on ourselves. We forget to give time to our own development as an individual; every decision is based on what is right for the family, the children, and the partner/husband/wife. So much so, that when it comes time to focusing on ourselves to get a CV written up or to remember the skills necessary to be successful at interview we have forgotten and no longer feel capable of these basic steps. We have forgotten how to successfully interact with the world outside of the warm blanket of motherhood.
We all forget that vital step of recognizing how we engage with the world.
Ask yourself the following
Am I actually showing up at work,
Am I courageous enough to be vulnerable?
How is my self-awareness and emotional intelligence,
How are my communication skills,
Relationship building skills,
Decision making skills,
The question we never ask is what can I do to improve and develop myself, to be more resilient, to plan and manage my career, to negotiate, to pass that interview, to get that job, to change myself and as a consequence improve my life/career/relationship/etc.
A wonderful Workshop today at Harry’s Chocolate Emporium.
We talked about how to tailor your CV to the job application you are making. We discussed how important it is to use the language of the recruiter in your CV and cover letter. How it is vital to make sure you are ticking all the essential requirements of the recruiter when writing your CV.
Thank you to everyone at Harry’s Chocolate Emporium for the warm welcome and for the fabulous chocolate and coffee and tea.
For anyone interested in learning how to build a winning CV and achieve greater success in the job search. Please feel free to get in touch.
Is it time to welcome the new post-kids you and recognize that the pre-kids you is a memory.
What is this process exactly? We all go through it, but nobody ever talks about it. The old me used to be able to give 110% at work, 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. Now that I have my kids and I am back at work I should still be able to do that…….right!!?
The new me has different priorities, but I can still be everything I was before, just with kids, right?
They say child number 1 changes your life, but nobody prepared me for child number 2. I’m struggling with my identity, I’m not sure of my career direction, I feel like a fraud, my confidence has taken a dive and the happiness and contentment I should be feeling, now that I have everything I want, is not materializing.
If you are dealing with any of the above, consider the following questions
Are you being realistic
a. Write down everything that you want to get done in a day, do this for a week and see how realistic your aspirations are
Are you taking the time to be grateful for what you have
a. Use your journal to practice gratitude every night before bed. Write down 3 things you are grateful for during your day, reread it in the morning as a start to your day
Review both exercises at the end of the week, share your findings with your partner/friend/mum/ significant person in your life and discuss.
You will be amazed at what you find.!
Good Luck, you are doing much better than you think.
Hints to turn your CV from a list of jobs to a coherent professional history of achievements and skills to get you invited for interview.
One of the biggest problems many of my clients are struggling with is where to begin when writing their CV. Particularly if they have been away from the workplace for some time. So read on to discover my secrete to success.
We have stopped talking about duties now is it all about achievements, what have you achieved in each position, what did you bring to the table.
When considering what achievements to add to your CV first read the job description, the essentials should all be reflected in your CV and the desirable as well if possible.
Stay on message, your message is that you can fill this position and your CV is proving evidence that you have already done it successfully, through your examples.
Never Never Never mention anything negative……. It’s all good!!!!
For help developing your CV for today’s market give me a call or send me an email to set up an appointment.
Life Coaching changed my life and I thought it was time I shared that feeling. Prior to this I was happy in my work and life but there was something missing. As a person who gets more pleasure out of giving rather than receiving, someone who gets happiness from helping another to find their way, becoming a Life Coach seemed the perfect option. The fact that it took me until half way through my life seems a shame and when thinking about it, could it have been any different?
There is a wonderful Christy Moor song where he tells us that in order to share our boat with others we first have to build our own boat. I think that’s what I was doing, building my own boat/ life and getting to a place where my becoming a Life Coach was an authentic and natural progression.
What does being a Life Coach give me? the answer to this question is endless joy. When I start working with a new client either on life coaching or on career coaching or self care coaching, I become a witness to positive change in that person’s life. I become the guiding light for that client to improve their circumstances by focusing the mind and being strategic in their actions to achieve something specific.
As a Life Coach I drive life changing action and I support bold and brave steps to achieving a new and better life, one that we can all achieve and are all worthy of.
When I started on this journey I could not have known what becoming a Life Coach would do for my life and the lives of the people around me.
Would I do it again? If I had my life to live over again I would become a Life Coach sooner.
Are you suffering from Superwoman Syndrome? If something doesn’t change in your life how will things look in 5 years?
Superwoman syndrome is when we neglect ourselves because we are seeking to do it all !! Recognise anyone? Not yet, read on.
Do you have?
Bouts of irritability
Inability to concentrate
Aches and pains
Sweating when not active
Inability to sleep well or sleeping too much
If you recognise any of these in your life you may be on the verge of a crash, just because you are not taking care of yourself.
We live in a culture where we feel that in order to be worthy of love we must be perfect at everything, perfect at work, perfect at parenting, perfect at being a lover and have a perfect size 10 and a perfect house to show everyone how absolutely perfect we are!
THIS IS NOT REALISTIC – NOBODY IS PERFECT
However, we as women have this huge weight that we carry around with us all day every day trying to achieve this perfection. And it is negatively affecting our health and wellbeing, it is worth it? Is there another way?
The answer is yes! Because there simply has to be another way. Why? Because this is not sustainable for anyone.
As women, we make a decision that in order to be successful we have to do it all alone, “because nobody will do it the way I do it”. We are busy running around all day every day not even getting 30 minutes out of the entire 24 hours to ourselves. What do you think this is doing to us? It is causing stress and what does stress do, well it won’t take you long to look up the negative effects of stress on our bodies and on our mental health and the answers are unspeakable.
So I will ask you again, if something doesn’t change in your life in the next 3 years how will things look.
If you could make that chance and you could to be the same effective, and efficient person but with joy and vitality and good health would you do it? If the answer is yes, now is the time, contact me for the chance to achieve this life-altering change.
This is a subject we have talked about quite a lot in the past however we are still making the same mistakes. This month is about freshening up that CV and being in with a chance. Many of us get itchy feet in September; maybe it’s something to do with the proximity of the Holiday Season, who knows.
If you are in the situation of changing careers then your CV needs to promote a new and different message. YOUR OLD CV NO LONGER WORKS.
Making a run for it. Mistake No 1.
If you are struggling and you’ve waited too long to make the change the likelihood is that you now hate your job, you hate the people you work for and you are not crazy about your colleagues. And you want to make an escape as far away from what you are currently doing as possible.
This was me a few years ago so, I hated my job and hence career and this created anxiety and stress, so I left with nothing to go to. (Not the best idea) I then retrained as a coach, this gave me fantastic life changing skills and experience that I now use every day and I am now successful in this field of career coaching and CV writing. However it took me several years to get her. It has been a bit of an up hill journey. (There definitely was an easier way)!
On reflection what I could have done was regain my composure and reclaim my power within the workplace. It’s simple really, not easy by any stretch but a simple concept. If I had done that, then I could have regained my respect for myself and brought that to a different organisation. Because as it turns out I loved the career I had chosen but not the company.
The moral of the story, don’t make that leap before you have improved your situation. Make your situation better by repairing broken relationships, building more respect, finding your voice, growing your skills and becoming more competent. Once this is achieved you can then bring your newfound confidence to your next position.
The biggest secret don’t leave it until you hate going to work to make a change, at this point it may be to late to improve your situation and then you leave with nothing to go to. Consider mentoring or coaching as a support in your efforts.