Challenging Autumn expected for pay and jobs………

This is the headline introducing the CIPD Labour Market Outlook : Summer 2020 survey, it reveals that employers intend to keep a tight rein on pay increases over the next 12 months in a bid to preserve jobs.

Ref. CIPD update 12th August 2020

Future Proof Yourself for the Challenges Ahead

How do we navigate a tight labour market in a global pandemic. Here are a few tips that will protect your mental health, increase your confidence and decrease your anxiety.

  1. When it comes to your inner critic, don’t let it take over,
  2. Question that inner critic, if you are struggling with your self image and confidence this is the time when that critic becomes overactive and inaccurate.
  3. Ask yourself positive questions rather than dwelling on the negative, Q. what is the evidence that I am a valued employee, valued friend, successful in my work; or similar, this way we are focusing on the positive.
  4. SELF CARE: Put yourself at the top of the list, nurture yourself, honour yourself whatever that looks like for you. Stop the incessant chatter that comes from not having space in your mind to think and consider your present and also your future.
  5. Set yourself some SMART goals these are Specific, Measurable,Attainable, Relevant and Time Based. When starting out remember to break down your goals to their tiniest building blocks and start there.
  6. Help someone else, often the best way to step out of our own ruminating is to help others, this can feel wonderful and give you the head space to recognise new opportunities.


CV Writing, things you should NOT do!

CV Writing

Don’t be afraid of white space.
Don’t fear the gaps. Even if you think your CV looks quite bare, as long as you’ve included all the relevant information and applicable, quantifiable achievements, you needn’t worry. Remember: Sometimes, less is more.

Don’t try to include too much. The ideal CV should be a checklist of all of your accomplishments. It should not be your life story. Tailoring your CV to the role is a great way to skim some of the fat and keep all waffle to a minimum.

Don’t include irrelevant information. Before adding any points in your application, ask the question: will it help you get the role. If the answer is no, take it out. Hobbies and interests are a great example. If they don’t help you stand out, don’t waste valuable space.

Don’t forget your cover letter. Although it is often seen as a different entity, your cover letter is attached to your CV, and both are vital in helping you clinch the right role. Utilise yours properly, and your CV becomes the perfect document to reinforce your talent.
Oh, they didn’t say to include one? Still do!! Every extra opportunity to sell yourself should be taken.

Don’t Experiment with size. You may think that changing font size is a great way to fit your CV onto two pages. But whether you’re using a large font to make your application seem longer or you’re using a smaller font to make sure everything fits, you’re not fooling anyone.
See also, margin size.

What can we do about a Mental Block

Mental Block
Stop building your mental wall!

What is your mental block stopping you from doing?

Many of my clients are finding it difficult to do something because of their mental and emotional blocks / walls. They feel they are not good enough, or not deserving enough or not clever enough or not ……. blank ………. enough.

We all have one, but for some of us this block is so debilitating that we find ourselves stuck. The thing to remember is that this wall is a construct of our own. We have built it up over many years and we now believe in it wholehearted.

What does your wall look like?
Mental block
Break down the wall !

What would it be like to look over the wall, would you still say don’t enter. Can you rise above your wall to better understand what the world really looks like.

As a coach I spend time helping clients rise above their limiting beliefs and better understand what life could be like if there were no mental blocks.

How can you use my tools to raise yourself up?

I help my clients reframe their view of what is stopping them from achieving their best selves. If someone is suffering from a lack of confidence due to a limiting belief I try to get them to see the problem from another perspective. I reframe their limiting belief so that they can break through their wall.

When we say “I can’t do that” it is the truth, when we say “I can’t do that yet” it is the truth and when we say “I can do that with a little help/study/experience” it is the truth!

When a client says I can’t do something, I ask how do you know you can’t? when the answer is, I just know.

This is where the reframe comes in.

I ask questions like, did you know when you were tiny that one day you would be able to walk, the answer is inevitably no, or did you know when you were a toddler that you would one day be able to ski? again the answer is inevitably no. Then the question has to be, if you were using the same outlook when you were tiny as you are now how would your life look. There would be no walking, no talking no skiing etc. Why, because you had already made up your mind you couldn’t do it.

The reframe is not intended to tell my client that he/she is wrong but to challenge their thinking. This is something we can all do at home or in the workplace. Ask the question, without emotion, where is the evidence that I can’t do it?

Buddha once said “The mind is everything, what you think you become

It’s 2020 it’s the end of January,

it’s time to breakthrough your wall!!

Self Care – Because You’re Worth It!

It’s July, and everywhere I look, the message is to stop and smell the flowers, to rest and be mindful, to review my life and be more present.  These are all great messages and powerful things to incorporate into our lives if only we had the time.

My message for July is, treat yourself to a full night’s sleep; the benefits are astounding.  July is the busiest month of the year so far comparable only to the run-up to Christmas, so the hope of getting enough rest is unlikely.

Here are a few tips on how to get through this busy period and come out the other end feeling slightly less broken.

1.    Hide the smartphone; it is stealing our precious minutes where we could be resting our minds.  Set a timeframe when you can consciously look at your updates, including any work emails, and turn off the phone outside of those hours.  Want your work-life balance back, think about it!.

2.    Set up an evening routine, cut out the last half an hour of TV, it will keep you awake, use the last half an hour of your day taking better care of yourself, take a bath, use some lovely lotion, give yourself a little love after your long day.

3.    Practice gratitude, just before you lay your head down, think of what was beautiful about your day, even if you have had a bad day there is still something to be grateful about, maybe your health, maybe your partner, or children, there is always something.  Make that last thought before sleep a positive one.

4.    If you are in the workplace, take time to set yourself a core wardrobe for work, this way you don’t spend time agonizing over what you will wear to work.  It is always there and always ready, have your accessories in a handy, easily accessible spot.

If you are struggling with something and want to make tangible steps to improve it or achieve it, consider life coaching – get in touch now and make the change that will transform your life.

Confidence and Positive Self Image

Does confidence come from positive self-image, or is it the other way around?

One of the most significant challenges of the modern day is confidence and how to get. The absence of confidence is the brick wall we come up against, which stops us from realizing our potential and often our happiness and self-worth.

As a Life Coach, I recognize that a lack of self-confidence is quite often if not always the underlying reason for most of my client’s struggles. The question is still how do I build up my confidence? Can we interchange the word confidence with resilience, if we had more confidence, would we be more resilient?

Joan Rosenberg, Psychologist and TEDx speaker, suggests that there are tools we can use and practice to build up our confidence. Joan sites the following 4 practices we can do daily to build up our confidence.

  1. allow yourself to experience the full range of feelings. Often we do not let ourselves to do this, we stop when it becomes difficult or scary. So if we are starting at shame, maybe we don’t go as far as vulnerability or embarrassment, Joan says we should. It is just a feeling after all…. Right!
  2. The second way is to present ourselves as positive, kind and well-intentioned. Maybe you are thinking you already do this, if so, what are you noticing?
  3. The third and this is one that will resonate with a lot of people, take action, even if you don’t feel like it, another way of putting this is “fake it till you make it”, my words not hers. It’s all about practice if we keep doing the things we think we can’t do; eventually, that thought process will change, and we will grow, and so will our confidence.
  4. And finally and this is a conversation which often comes up in coaching, accept a compliment. How often do we get a compliment and shun it, make an excuse or undervalue it? In the same breath, how often do we chastise ourselves for not being good enough, or not reaching perfection, whether it is at work, at home, as a mum as a sister as a daughter? I think we all know the answer.

If you are struggling with your confidence or your resilience in the workplace or your poor self-image, get in touch for details on how coaching can help.